Am I Enough?

Music and Self – Worth

Have you ever wished you could be someone else? Someone for whom a particular skill or quality just seemed so easy, whether it was their confidence and positive energy, sense of humour or the way they interact with a audience? All the while we are stuck in past moments where uncomfortable attempts at humour or awkwardness around your peers and the daily downward spiral of self-doubt and discouragement. How do we navigate around these self destructive go to thoughts as we underestimate ourselves and overestimate everyone else?

What would be possible for you to create, if you let go of yourself for a moment, with all your perceived limitations, baggage, and concerns about what others might think?

My art is me!

As artists, we spend a large portion of our lives mastering our art. With so much time and energy invested it begins to form our identity as an artist and becomes a big part of how we define and value ourselves. So when our work is rejected, it is difficult not to feel that it is a rejection of who we are, our worth as person.

For us to pour our heart and soul into something and have someone say it’s s***? Some are afraid to try again. Afraid to be so personal and share so much of who they are in there next project. Some fall into the trap of trying to make music that others want.

You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time.” Or so said the fifteenth-century monk and poet, John Lydgate

Then you listen to an artist who puts there truth out thereinto the world, and we realize how deeply we want this as well. To have the courage to be ourselves, no matter what the world may say. That this is art-making.

To the critic, art is a noun. To the artist, art is a verb.

Feelings follow Thoughts!

In the same way that it’s easier to develop new positive habits than it is to erase historically negative habits, what if, you created a new story for yourself? New name, new story, same dream but a new way to fulfil your mission in life? What kind of music would that person produce? How would that person perform? How would that person carry themselves?Would this be freeing, even for a moment, giving us a glimpse of our potential lying just beneath the fear?

Perhaps the most powerful resource you have in your arsenal is your mind.

The difference

Your mindset could spell the difference between success and failure in your life and career. Most successful people will tell you that a positive mindset is key. Your mind will either serve you or drain you. You cannot reach your true potential as an artist unless you have your mind on your side. Your audience relies on it. They need you to deliver. Your message. your music.

“Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, your values become your destiny.” – Mahatma Gandhi

How you start your day determines how the day goes. One of the most powerful ways to start your day is on purpose, prepare, refresh, and train yourself to live your best life.

“Truly successful decision making relies on a balance between deliberate and instinctive thinking.” – Malcolm Gladwell

Positive or Negative

If your self image is positive it can give you the confidence to solve any problem or overcome any setback. On the negative, it can make you doubtful of your capabilities and potential and become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Think about how differently you feel when you are doing something you’re great at, compared to when you feel uncertain. When you’re in doubt, your mind starts to show pictures and tell stories about how you cannot or will not be successful and it breaks your momentum and shatters your self image. The best thing you can do is to celebrate your wins. Give your subconscious mind all the evidence it needs to support you in your career.

Be proud every day that you get to do what you do. As they say, if you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life.

You don’t have to wait to feel the way you want to feel. You can generate thoughts that trigger feelings; and generating those feelings starts to bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor Frankl

When the mind has a purpose it has a plan a strategy to work toward. There’s

nothing more fulfilling than being on purpose, when every ounce of your energy flows with the message that you are working on purpose and on point. Meditate on your purpose until you find it. Then keep refining and defining it. If you don’t think that will work for you, ask yourself, what do you think life wants out of you?

“Instead of asking ‘what do I want from life?’ a more powerful question is, ‘what does life want from me?’” – Eckhart Tolle

Don’t allow doubt to sabotage your thinking and your confidence. You must learn to abandon doubt. If you get overly attached to doubt, it reprograms your mind. As an artist, you are the creator of your lifestyle and career. It’s up to you to choose the life you want and that means taking ownership of how your thoughts support or sabotage you.

Basil Reynolds

Coaching Consultant

Finding the Music Inside