What matters most in life? Is it money, fame, success, achievements? What is the one thing it comes down to? This naturally would vary from one person to another. Life is a journey and we are at different stages and aspects of that journey so matters most can be dependent on where we are at. Life for most isn’t a state of existence, like water that exists in three states. It is fluid and as such at different times, different things matter. So what should matter in life?

If you don’t know where your going any road will take you there. Our dreams give us something to aspire to with passion and purpose. This gives us the passion to want something enough to commit to getting it. It will Push you forwards because it determines how well you can live your dream.

When it comes to achieving what matters most to you, one of the best ways to set yourself up is to focus on the key factors that will help you deliver your goals successfully. Knowing what those factors are can make the difference between success and failure.

Create a vision and define what success looks like for you. What is your ideal outcome? Be as specific as you can. The reason it is so important to be as specific as you can is because the more specific your vision is the more specific your goals will be; the more specific your goals are the more specific your actions plans will be, and the more specific your action plans are the more specific your results will be.

Identify what you need to succeed in achieving your vision of your ideal outcome. What resources will need?What new skills do you need to learn? What do you need to start doing more of? What do you need to start doing less of? What processes and practices will support you in reaching your goal?

Several years ago I realized I was caught up in the monotony of life, accumulating more than I need. The more I followed this lifestyle the more true meaning evaded me. I was being slowly drained of my passion and purpose. This was all leaving me feeling a little flat and unfulfilled. It felt like something was missing, but I wasn’t sure what that something was.

I started to reflect on what I thought I wanted with what I actually wanted. I started to question what I was really looking for. Was I on a path that would get me there and did I have the people in my life that could help me realise my potential. I started to question what it was to be successful and fully explore my own definition of it, not just follow someone else’s interpretation. I asked myself the question whether what I thought was important in life was really important at all. I reframed my thinking and adopted the mindset of living with the end in mind. Now I live on purpose, it drives my actions. It fuels my passion. It encompasses my work, my relationships, and my approach to living life. It wraps around everything I do. It means living our lives in an intentional way. It gives our lives a sharper focus. Our why is what keeps us going when life gets tough. Our why gives life extra meaning and fullness. If we’ve lost our way and are struggling to discover your purpose, you can ask yourselves these questions:

● Where am I’m trying to get to?
● What lights me up and gets me excited?
● What’s my reason for getting up in the mornings? ● WhatdoIwantmoreofinmylife?
● WhatdoIwantlessofinmylife?

The answers to these questions can be revealing and can lead us back to our hearts and to what matters most to us.

Basil Reynolds

Coaching Consultant

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